Trying to be someone you shouldn’t never ends well.
Your ROLE is more important than you think. Trace back every argument you’ve had with anybody in the past month and I’ll bet you fought about (or quietly resisted) “Who gets to do what to whom?” Continue reading Your Bus Seat
It’s hard to be honest about flaws in yourself you don’t see… I often walk near a pasture that contains horses. They’re pretty friendly and come up to me out of curiosity or maybe if my wife is with me to see if she brought them a treat. I’ve noticed that when you are walking towards them they might turn their heads sideways or lift … Continue reading Blindspots
Ever been fired at from your own team? This will be unusual and a little pointed so apologies ahead of time… If there’s one thing I don’t understand it’s Friendly Fire. How can someone who’s supposed to be on your team try and take you down? The question people like me were born asking….”WHY?”…. can’t be asked. This fact makes the lesson of friendly fire … Continue reading Friendly Fire
In watching family relationships and business interactions for some decades I’ve developed a theory…. most people lose before they even enter conflict. Maybe this is you? So what if we didn’t automatically translate the word conflict into pain? I’m not a guy who has pets. I don’t understand the concept of a free-loading, arrogant, playful being who serves no other purpose than eating food I … Continue reading I Would Consider Having Fainting Goats…
Pain can make you smarter but it doesn’t always. I’m not very good at pretending especially when the topic is pain so this might be a little raw for you… This will seem like an unusual way to end a series about parenting but I felt like it needed to come up in conversation as we normally avoid these sorts of topics until we’re in … Continue reading Pain
“Forgiveness beats pulling the trigger. The life you save is your own” #gundown When conflict happens the first thing we tend to do is kick our chair back, fortify (gather allies), and leave the room of that relationship. That needs to change immediately. It’s just so easy to so build up our side of the story to where it’s the “ONLY” side when in reality … Continue reading Gun Down
“Show me a completely smooth operation and I’ll show you someone who’s covering mistakes. Real boats rock.” Frank Herbert. Chapterhouse: Dune. Does candor make you squirm? This is very counter-cultural to our Canadian mindset. Our American neighbours generally do a better job of it and I suspect it has something to do with our UK decency. Not that decency or politeness is a bad thing … Continue reading Candor
In view of the recent World Cup in Brazil and also the Fast Five from Rio… I thought I’d blog about relationships:) …But this is how we do things in North America! Sometimes I think Common has taken Sense out behind the barn and shot him. Common to me are the everyday ridiculous lowest-common-denominator practitioners who think they’re absolutely right about relationships when none … Continue reading This is Brazil!
Lovely Erin…. My aunt Lynda Kope said this to me before we were married: “When you get married you do it because of this and because of that. You stay married in spite of this and in spite of that.” She was right. One of my lifelong friends told me something before I’d met Erin about marriage that always stuck with me. “Corey, there are … Continue reading It’s Been 15 Years Baby!
Like most people, I have a naked story. Vulnerability makes us feel naked. Unprotected. Weird. We don’t like it and we rarely hold it up as something to be admired but I can’t shake this feeling that we might all be missing something. Are the people I admire most the least vulnerable? Maybe that’s not the best way to put it – let’s try … Continue reading Shame on You! Vulnerability