Mentors…do you have any? (The Double Tap)

Wikipedia:
A double tap is a shooting technique where two shots are fired at the same target with the same sight picture.
Instruction and practice of the double-tap improves overall accuracy as shooters often do not have the gun fully extended on the first shot meaning the second of a double-tap is usually the better.

Rule #2 of Zombieland – Double Tap.You think it’s dead (technically it was before you shot it), one more makes 100% sure.

Ok this might be my first blog about zombies. I must admit I do enjoy some of the more tame zombie movies so apologies if you’re disappointed in me.. Actually I’m probably ok if you’re disappointed but at least I’m honest about it.

Christians are really good at Double Tapping ourselves. I grew up in church and more specifically in church leadership and have watched it my whole life. We’re so quick to judge tiny items in other people, completely pass over our own hangups, and forget that we are prone to failure and very human and should therefore probably relax and have a laugh at ourselves from time to time.

If you can’t laugh at yourself you’ll probably repeat the same failures? Is this true in your life?

System failure in regards to technology generally has to do with at least these two things: 1. Ignorance and 2. Lack of Discipline.

Sin and recurring problems are like zombies in our lives. They represent the death of relationships and mindlessly follow us from place to place disrupting everything and eventually killing the things we love the most in our lives. We need to put the zombies down. Whether it is the zombie of addiction to fractured time management, lack of engagement with those we love the most, or devastating things like pornography and other death-dealing issues, we really really need to figure out a way to put the zombies down.

The Double Tap is normally two shots to the head when dealing with zombies. Make sure it stays down!

But that’s not what we do is it? We try to deal with it ourselves and keep it quiet while we pull the trigger again and again in secret, missing the target nearly every time. What we’re actually dealing with are bad habits. Habits change how your brain works over time and take months and years sometimes to break and change into something healthy.

Pride in North American culture is the thing that cripples us before the battle. We somehow think that we will be able to beat these things by ourselves when, in actuality:

WE HAVE NEVER ACTUALLY WON THAT PARTICULAR BATTLE AND WE’VE BEEN FIGHTING IT FOR YEARS!

Sorry for the all-caps but I had to get the point across. Why on earth would we think we can beat this alone if we never have beaten it in the past?

It’s ridiculous but we all think that way. Pride. Arrogance. Image. We would rather eventually destroy everything we love over time than risk embarrassment. That’s normally what it comes down to.

Mentors….

My mentors were an embarrassing sort of deal. They weren’t overly concerned with my image and, honestly, weren’t overly sensitive to not hurting my feelings. Yet these are the relationships I value the most in my life and credit any success I have had to.

“But aren’t you supposed to credit success to God?”
Thank you religious Christian for bringing that up:) Of course I credit God for these people but it is never a conflict of interests to credit and honor the people God gave to teach me. It is all the same thing to me.

My mentors taught me to fight for things that matter. They were and are brutally honest with me about shortcomings or issues in my life or ministry. Not all of my mentors are smarter than me in everything or even older than me, but they are all valuable.

I am preparing for future conflict ahead of time and that is why I have largely been successful. When you are in the battle for your marriage it is too late to prepare for it. When you are bankrupt it is too late to correct past financial failure. When your wife leaves because she just can’t deal with your porn addiction anymore it is too late.

My mentors were all seasoned fighters in some aspect. My dad taught me to hold the line in the church when people start getting religious and weird and wanting you to change the vision from reaching lost people to making them happy. Other more experienced pastors than I am will recommend courses of action for extreme or awkward people conflict or will flat out tell me things like “spend more time with this person than that person”. Invaluable advice.

I can actually learn the lessons they learned over decades in a matter of weeks if I want to. It’s totally up to me how long it takes to assimilate the lesson and how much pain is attached to it. Things like this: I rarely make a decision that only appeases a religious person (someone who thinks the church is there to make them happy) if it costs me influence with people far from God. Jesus cared more for sick people than those who didn’t think they really needed a doctor anymore so it’s not a great model for me to spend loads of time and energy trying to make people happy who have forgotten why they exist on the earth. My mentors taught me this too. You simply can’t fracture the mission and honor God at the same time so choose up front and don’t let it choose for you.

Big game hunters hire professionals to back them up when they encounter dangerous prey. If you only wound a Cape Buffalo they can turn and kill you so what do they do to ensure their safety?
The Professional Hunters line up the same shot beside the amateurs and pull the trigger a split second after the amateur does to make sure the dangerous animal goes down and stays down.

Much like you have to do with the zombies in your life.

There is a story in the Bible about Prince Jonathan and his armour bearer which illustrates this brilliantly in 1 Samuel 14. His armour bearer was highly invested in the success of Israel over the Philistines probably mostly because if they lost the war his own family would suffer.

He said something very interesting to his prince and mentor:“Do what you think is best,” the armor bearer replied. “I’m with you completely, whatever you decide.”

That is not what we say in our independent society. We think we’re smarter than everybody else. We are self proclaimed experts with no experience or history of success but that doesn’t stop us from lecturing people about any topic we feel we understand.

Jonathan had had help from the Lord in the past and won many many battles. He had experience, he had scars and he had success. His armour bearer knew this and trusted him more than he trusted himself and put himself in his hands.

Jonathan proceeds to implement a ridiculous plan that actually works, God gets involved because of his faith and all of Israel wins the battle. All because one lowly armour bearer believed in his mentor.

The previous passage in Scripture said that the only people who had a sword or spear in Israel were Jonathan and his father Saul the king, which is a lot like us and I’d really like you to understand this…

We don’t have weapons until our mentors kill that first enemy for us and show us how to use them.

 

Corey Kope

Pastor. Father of 4 beauties. Devoted husband, Liverpool fan, and Jesus follower.

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